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Off topic, but funny that you mention Bright Sided, I was just thinking about that book yesterday! I feel like there are a lot of people (liberals, apolitical people, even conservatives) who aren’t appalled at what’s happening or maybe they are appalled but they aren’t doing anything to stop it because of their core belief that “everything will end up ok”. These were folks who didn’t believe our warnings that no, no they won’t be. Optimism bias is something I sorely lack and that makes me a Carol among colleagues, and reading Barbara Ehrenreich gave me a bit of peace. But now my lack of optimism bias has me going absolutely crazy as I see us sinking deeper into authoritarian quicksand with no lifeline in sight. And some of my friends and colleagues are relatively chill, they think that God is in control or they just think things will work themselves out. I had a moment yesterday when I wished Barbara was still alive and what would she say about these times. Sorry to not talk about Pluribus but thank you for bringing up Barbara. ❤️

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Separate point regarding the reference to “looking on the bright side”: I recall a scene from “Ordinary People” when Timothy Hutton is in his therapist’s office after the shocking revelation that one of his friends from the mental health hospital just committed suicide, when he just saw her mere weeks before, seemingly OK. He’s freaking out and pacing and says something along the lines of “I JUST WANT TO FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS! LET ME FEEL BAD ABOUT IT!” And this, too, is what Carol is hoping to do: to grieve her wife the way she needs to grieve and the hive simply won’t let her. It’s a fundamental piece of being human—grieving great losses and missing those you love.

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