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Lucius's avatar

My mind immediately leaps to the constant stream of "We just need to UNDERSTAND the people who voted for trump! They feel LEFT BEHIND by the changing world! Calling them names is what caused them to vote for trump to begin with!" Bullshit we've been force fed for the past decade.

It also reminds me of a tweet I made that got me a week long suspension. "Save your empathy for the victims."

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I don't think of my empathy as good or bad because it is a part of me. Its not something that I view as a trait that makes me more moral. Its more an aspect of how I work and must be managed. For instance I don't watch historical movies that have violence or torture or even emotional pain. I enjoy fictional movies that include all of those things. The non fiction just traumatizes me it is not transformative I automatically think about the harm that everyone involved has suffered and will continue to live with. I automatically empathize with any pain that motivates the aggressor and the victim and I want to fix it. For me, my empathy and understanding actions others take because of their pain makes me want to fix it by taking away the pain. Sometimes, like for example with addiction, fixing it by trying to take away the pain can make everything worse. I don't empathize with my perceptions of the stereotype of people, the sex worker, the disabled person, the Trump supporter, the addict. I empathize with what individuals tell or show me how they feel. It may be the scientist part of me but I am ok with being uncertain and accepting that I have an imperfect understanding and can be wrong. At least that's how science is supposed to work. To believe that I know what someone else's experience is sounds narcisstic. I experience what is communicated to me as their experience. I hope this makes sense and maybe my understanding of what empathy is is wrong but that's my take on it.

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